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May 10, 2008


ms g

I feel exactly the same way. I am just so uncomfortable with it. I am cooking dinner for my mom, but that is just regular, I don't want to make a big deal out of mothers day. I can't help but think of all those mothers without their babies, and also, it annoys me that other people suddenly think I get to celebrate it.


Ms. G.. THANK YOU!! I hate the fact that someone at my job said, "so, your first Mother's Day...". Uh, actually, I was pregnant with Jimmy on Mother's Day of 06, pregnant with Andy on Mother's Day of 07, so technically this is my THIRD Mother's Day. But I didn't say anything to him. He's a nice guy. It's just that to some people, if you don't get to take the baby home, you don't have a baby. It's like they never existed.

Jenn (froggy-mom)

I've gotten the "Happy First Mother's Day!" a few times this week. Even from people who I thought knew better. I just remember how hard it was for me last year, and I know tomorrow will be a really rough day for a lot of women.

Monica H

Rough day indeed. Last year I boycotted this day. Tomorrow is looking the same. Except we are going to have a casual lunch at my in-laws house.


I couldn't agree more Monica. It's exactly how I feel about it. I can't EVER imagine the day being a celebration. I just can't see myself celebrating a day that all of my children can't participate in. My husband is taking me out tonight, although he isn't calling it a Mother's Day celebration.

It's a sucky day, and I would be much happier going to sleep tonight and waking up on Monday.

Michelle Z

I've always thought it was a miserable Hallmark holiday. I mean, a forced day to celebrate? It's been a rough holiday for our family for years - my aunt died on Mother's Day when I was 11.

Last year on Mother's Day Ruby & I came home from the hospital - without Lydia. I don't even want to leave the house tomorrow. Stupid holiday.


Did you see the article in the paper today about Secret Mother's Day? I scanned it quickly, it was at the cafe we had lunch at & of course Ethan wanted to be held. I thought it was nice of the author to acknowledge mothers whose babies aren't with them.

DH is cooking dinner for me tomorrow & there's a gift from him & Ethan waiting for me, but I get what you're saying, I wouldn't want to go out for dinner & CELEBRATE, it's still very bittersweet for me. I've caught myself tearing up a couple of times the past few days.


I think the day is bittersweet. It is a hard day for me for a different reason, but I am allowing my husband to do something for me, because I have to get beyond that hurt.

Monica H

Monica- HE DOES COUNT! As you know, husbands can be insensitive at times, but they mean well. I don't think he meant to hurt you in any way. But if I were you, I'd let him know how you feel. He needs to know.


hopefully your dh didn't mean anything by it. i'm sure he was actually trying to be very sweet. but sometimes, you have to wonder what goes through their heads. while this was my first mother's day with oliver, i was pregnant with him last mother's day, AND i've been a stop mom for 6 years. but this is the first year i even heard "happy mother's day".

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